Cord Cutting Spell for an Ex

I sense you already know it's over—and still, something tugs every time their name surfaces on your screen. That tug isn't love anymore; it's a habit wearing love's coat. This working isn't about them. It's about gently releasing the thread you've been feeding from your own ribs, so your attention, your sleep, and your nights can come home to you.

Timing

• Moon: Waning moon
• Day: Saturday
• Time: After sunset, ideally before bed

What You Need

• black candle
• paper
• black pen
• scissors
• sea salt
• water in a small bowl
• fire-safe surface
• matches
• bay leaves
• black tourmaline

The Incantation

What I have been feeding, I now feed no longer.

What leaves my hand does not return.

The thread is cut, the weight set down.

My attention comes home to me.

I release them, and I release myself.

The Ritual

1. Find a quiet evening when you're alone and your phone is in another room. Set up your fire-safe surface at a table where you can sit comfortably—this is your space tonight, no one else's.
2. Light the black candle and take three slow, grounding breaths. Let the flame witness you. If you have black tourmaline, place it beside the candle as an anchor for your own steadiness.
3. On a strip of paper, write one short line in black ink—their name, or the single habit that keeps pulling you toward them (the 11pm check, the unsent draft, the replayed conversation). Fold the paper once away from you.
4. Cut the folded paper cleanly in half with the scissors. As you cut, say quietly: 'What leaves my hand does not return.' Set the scissors down and do not pick them back up tonight.
5. Touch each half of the paper to the candle flame and let them burn out on the fire-safe surface (or in a bay leaf wrap if you'd like an added herb of release). Watch until the smoke is gone.
6. Sweep the cool ash into the bowl of water and stir in a pinch of sea salt. Speak the full incantation once, low and steady, without rushing.
7. Pour the salted ash water down an outdoor drain or at the curb—away from your home. Rinse the bowl in cold water and wash your hands in cold water as well.
8. Return inside, snuff the candle, and sleep with your phone in another room. In the morning, drink a full glass of water before checking any screen.